Saturday, December 11, 2004

Men that women like

Men that women like

By Bob Garon
TODAY Newspaper
Friday, December 10, 2004 11:57 PM

Part 2 of 3 parts

Every woman looks for a man of strong character. Women don’t like wimps, even if they often end up with one. Sadly, they sometimes mistake the macho guy for a man of character. He is often a mama’s boy in macho clothing. Women seek protection, security and strength in a man. That they find in character, strong character.

They want a man of empathy. Their man should be able to feel for them and have a capacity for deep sharing with them about what they (the women) feel. Too many men tend to live in their own little world and seem not to care or to be able to show empathy for the beloved. Knowing that the man has the capacity and the willingness to understand what they are feeling and then to be able to engage them in a meaningful conversation about these feelings is, for women, a great blessing.

He should, of course, be intelligent. Intelligent men make good companions, and women like to be the partners of men who have a good mind. Intelligence is also a prerequisite of success and what woman does not hope to have a successful husband?

In surveys, women say that they like a man with a sense of humor. Someone who can make them laugh. Someone who is funny to be with. A man who can bring joy to them and their children. They like a man who does not take himself too seriously and who can laugh at himself.

Women value a man who is responsive to their needs and feelings. They want a man who attends to their needs without always having to be told. A man who responds without the wife having to spell it out to him, but does so of his own mind even before the woman asks.

If a man is responsive to her, he has perhaps the one quality every woman on the planet looks for more than anything else: understanding. The understanding man is a joy to his woman. To be able to be herself and be understood by the man she loves covers a multitude of weaknesses. If she has an understanding man, she can handle his other faults more easily.

Understanding her makes her feel loved and accepted by her man. When understanding is lacking, the woman feels alienated. She cannot seem to connect with the man she chose to be her partner. She becomes frustrated and angry. If, however, she has an understanding husband, she is content and can handle most everything that comes her way.

The qualities mentioned are the most important on the wish list of the majority of women surveyed. If they are lucky enough to find a man who has these qualities, then they are content and ready for a long and happy life.


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